Friday, August 21, 2009

Just one wish

A man was riding his Harley along a California beach when suddenly the sky cleared above his head and, in a booming voice, the Lord said, 'Because you have tried to be faithful to me in all ways, I will grant you one wish.'

The biker pulled over and said, 'Build a bridge to Hawaii so I can ride over anytime I want.'
The Lord said, 'Your request is materialistic, think of the enormous challenges for that kind of undertaking, the supports required reaching the bottom of the Pacific and the concrete and steel it would take!. It will nearly exhaust several natural resources. I can do to it, but it is hard for me to justify your desire for worldly things. Take a little more time and think of something that could possibly help mankind.'

The biker thought about it for a long time. Finally, he said, 'Lord, I wish that I and all men could understand women, I want to know how she feels inside, what she's thinking when she gives me the silent treatment, why she cries, what she means when she says nothing's wrong, why she snaps and complains when I try to help, and how I can make a woman truly happy.'

The Lord replied, "you want two lanes or four lanes on that bridge?'

Aint that the truth?!

Being a woman, you know these things first hand.
But yet, in that moment, you just cannot break this terrible curse of
"why doesn't he just know"
that's embedded in our genes!

Being a mother of two girls, I have the joy of being on the opposite end.
You get the look,
the stares from accross the room,
the peeking from around the corner,
the cold shoulder,
the small talk that is feeling you out to see if you're in a good mood,
or my favorite (from you middle child) the notes!!!

I'm trying to teach them - If you want something, just ASK!!!
Don't beat around the bush, don't expect me to "just know" because most of the time I do.
But because I'm your mom, I'm not gonna make it that easy, sorry darling!

There will be alot of people that we come accross in life that don't "just know" what you want.

Unfortunately, hubby (or shall I say I) took the beating on this one this week.
As I mentioned earlier this week, I've been having some terrible shoulder pain.
Being that I'm always trying to be the OVERLYindependent woman (Rooaarrr!!)
It gets me in trouble sometimes.
I don't like to complain,
I HATE asking for help.
I don't like to be in a position where I can't do things for myself or my family.

But guess what?!

Sometimes your body needs you to be vulnurable, needs you to take some time out.

My shoulder's been hurting me for about 3 months or more
The pain comes and goes.
I thought it was from stress, I needed a massage, my purse was too heavy, etc.
But then the pain moved down my arm thru to my elbow.
Then to my hand.
Then the muscle weakness set in.
When I thought back over the past few months, I remembered that I was dropping things alot.
I haven't been able to sleep good at night because my arm and shoulder would hurt so bad.
It started to hurt to grip the steering wheel for my long trek home.
It hurt to have my fingers bent.
The sensation of the vibration from the steering wheel on my hand drove me insane.
It bothered me to have my hand closed to hold the boy's hand.
Finally, it was time to see a doctor.
The dr. thinks it's radiculothapy which is a pinched root nerve in the neck. It explains all the symptoms that I'm having. But he's checking for athritis too since it runs in the family.

Again, being the indpendent woman, I hadn't really talked about the true pain and worry I was feeling. I expected him to "just know".

Needless to say, every small thing turned into a big thing.
I wanted something, but when asked, I would reply, No thanks, I'm fine.
Of course, getting more hurt and angry that he doesn't "just know"

Finally after 3 days of being angry and probably putting him on an up and down roller coaster,
I gave up.
He tried, I was being resistent.
Honestly, there's no reason for playing the game of CLUE.
Just ask.

Honey, you're not off the hook, my shoulder still hurts, I think I need a massage! (wink wink)


sunshine said...

Hey Janelle, I know the feeling I had an accident a while ago on my arm and since then it's gotten worst. Finally I had to go to a chiropractor who told me I have a pinched nerve on my neck and shoulder area, he has being treating me and I feel much better, but I was to the point of almost not able to move my big finger (on the right hand) and at night some of my finger would get numb. Take care of that problem before it's too late or too painful.

I really like your blog, so pls ck mine as you have something there waiting.

Grand Pooba said...

Oh girl, this is the story of my life. I get so angry and hurt that my husband doesn't just KNOW what I want! Girls are so weird that way! And that is so weird about your shoulder and arm! Holy crap, you do deserve a massage!

Follow along through the fun and agony as we try to figure out how to raise two completely opposite teenagers- Teen 1, the fiesty yet inquisitive one, Teen 2 quiet but wise-cracking and our ball full of energy known as The Boy. It aint always pretty, but we’ll sure try to make the best of it!
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